Here we go.
I've been bouncing ideas around in my head about what I should write. Should I write about us before marriage, after marriage, or maybe us from the beginning?
But I think that there's something that stands out to both of us, something that we will always remember and they are the people's reactions when we "announced" that we were getting married. I remember being so excited but not sure about how some people would react.
We were happily shocked when people were unexpectedly happy for us! But we were greatly hurt by the unexpected criticism and the questioning of "why?"
After the engagement, I took a trip North with my parents so they could visit family and friends. On this trip I, personally, was "counseled" by so many people who thought that they had the right to give their opinion. If it's possible to be beaten with words, I was definitely stoned.
Supposedly these opinions and questions were out of love and were thrown at me like rocks, only for my well being. Maybe these people thought they could guide me just like when parents punish or scold their children - they do it out of love. But in my case, it was and still is hard to believe that all of the comments came from love.
Knowing how most family members and even some friends might react, I was prepared to answer their many, hurtful questions. But then people I didn't even know, people who were only acquaintances to me, thought they had the right to guide me through life without even knowing me. Some were almost quizzing me on why I thought I was old enough, wise enough or mature enough to be getting married!
Well after months of being ambushed, after months of praying hard and just trusting God, we got married. It wasn't too long ago that we were pronounced husband and wife, but I know for a fact that every negative, supposedly "guiding" word was wrong. I know I made the right decision. I know that I'm doing what God wants me to be doing and he has already blessed me more than I could have ever hoped for. My husband is the most amazing man, even better than the one I had dreamt about as a little girl.
So, that only goes to show that God is in control, [thankfully!] and not the world.